bell hooks on aloneness

“I think that only in a truly supportive environment can we know the real meaning of privacy or ‘aloneness.’ Because the real meaning is not about secrets or clandestine activity; I think that ‘real’ (I’m struggling with the word ‘real’) or ‘authentic’ privacy has to do with being capable of being alone with one’s self. And one of the sadnesses of a culture of lies and domination is: so many people cannot be alone with themselves. They always need the TV, the phone, the stereo-something…because to be alone with the self is to possibly have to see all the stuff we spend so much of our time trying not to face.”

— bell hooks (via)